Arrogant and Pompous

So today I had a discussion with an individual, and In this conversation it was brought to my attention that to a majority of people feel I come across as Arrogant or Pompous. That in a way I make claims of pretensions to superior importance or rights. As I look at my life in a different light… I feel that I can see where these feelings may arise. In this aspect, the way I address individuals… no matter who they are, I am unassuming… I do not assume you know what I’m talking about. No matter how common and simple it may be. I feel like it eliminates room for error in misunderstanding or miscommunication. But during this process is where I come across as patronizing.  Like I think they are stupid or incompetent. But that’s where I feel THEY are assuming… doing the very thing I am trying to avoid. They are assuming they know what I mean before I break it down… why not entertain the idea that I’m just trying to be clear. Not that I think your unintelligent. Why? Because we are self-interested by nature… I don’t mean in physical things or sacrifice. But that we think of our feelings as truth. That whatever we feel is validated as legit. Unfortunately, feelings are based off perception… and ones perception will always be different from another’s. Our own self image interferes with the actual situation at hand. The desired effect is a narcissistic gain, a boost to stimulate our self-image. This is the base on which our personality is constructed. And here is where I am patronizing and arrogant. An individual's self-concept is the core of their personality. It affects every aspect of human behavior: the ability to learn, the capacity to grow and change. A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success in life… not to assume that because you FEEL someone is patronizing you that they themselves are arrogant or pompous, but in fact they may be striving to reach outside of their own perception of the situation to ensure you see it as they do… or maybe I’m just arrogant and pompous.