Ignorance Is NOT Bliss

Ignorance is not Bliss. It’s a nightmare for those who are choosing to seek God and His Wisdom. So although you may have to go through all sorts of trials and tribulation to gain Wisdom, which can be very…very hard… There is more Bliss in knowing who you are in God and receiving understanding from him than there is with any “superficial Bliss” that comes from the attitude and behavior that kept you in ignorance in the first place. I feel more enlightenment and Bliss now with further understanding rather than with less. I pray for this wisdom. I don’t long for the old ways when I was ignorant…ever.

Greatful

I see people every day that have it great... Like a bed of Roses, However thats not what they see. I can understand wanting better, but not being grateful for what you have is just plain selfish. Everybody loves a rose... but will you be thankful for the thorns?

DIRTY LAUNDRY

I'm an open book. This just makes my life easier... Being forthcoming with my successes and failures makes me feel like I don't have to pretend. I get to just be honest and open and The truth will set you free....right? In my weakness he is strong… so should I post Personal Problems and unwarranted Drama on social media? The thing about airing out your “Dirty Laundry” is that it potentially makes you the offender.   

I myself have seen people put stuff on face book and have thought to myself… “Facebook is not the place for that!” or “why would you tell the whole world your very private business?… I would never….”

We read it and make our own little judgments… we shake our heads, we scroll by and sometimes some individuals even feel compelled to inform the poster that they should delete the Post due to it being “too Personal” and they are perceiving it as “Dirty Laundry”. Sometimes even more insensitive individuals will just post a dismissive comment such as below:

When I see people post their "dirty laundry" on face book these days... I no longer shake my head. I don’t judge them or the situation being posted….I just see it for what it is in most cases... A cry for help. Posting “Drama” in any social media public forum for the most part is never a good idea because it is your online personal voice.  It is your online image and a reflection of the real you.  

If you’re trying to humiliate someone or instigate a fight with a friend, ex friend or family member, leaving distasteful remarks on yours or the wall of others and are clearly being destructive, how do you think others see you? 

It is not rocket science, it is common sense. However I’m not saying that it should never be done. There is a time and place for everything. I believe that sometimes posting certain situations and “Drama” can be done and done in a way that it’s so much more than hurt pride. Look beyond the words and see the actual cry for help. Not validation… but rather a cry for vindication. Next time try and keep in mind that in most cases, The “private situations” most People post about are commonly rooted out of Hurt. So next time rather than judging the individual for posting their drama or telling them they shouldn’t of…just tell them you hear them and that you’re there for them. It doesn’t mean you agree with them. It doesn’t mean you are picking sides… you’re just being kind. You’re being loving. I myself have posted “Dirty Laundry”… I didn’t know it was a cry for help at the time I was posting it… but only later when I received love and encouragement from Strangers and family alike… I realized what I was really needing was Help. For some... IT’S SO HARD TO ASK FOR HELP. So next time your reading some ones dirty laundry… ask yourself, is it hate and anger? Or is it hurt and pain? I’m sure we can all relate - feeling a little more bold, open, or witty when we interact over the internet…this may be the closes thing some people will come to asking for help without actually asking. Next time someone post dirty laundry…. Help them wash it. What if just a few words of encouragement was the very thing they needed?

Critical And Independent Thinking

 

"Critical And independent Thinking is practiced in My Life essentially via intuition gained through wisdom by failure. Critical thinking is a skill that develops over time. Independent thinking does not occur overnight. I am open to having my cherished beliefs challenged, and must learn how to “defend” my views based on evidence or logic, rather than simply “pounding my chest” and merely proclaiming that my views are “valid.” One characteristic of the critical, independent thinker is being able to recognize fantasy versus reality; to recognize the difference between personal beliefs which are nothing more than personal beliefs, versus views that are grounded in evidence, or which have no evidence... and after all that, add Faith."

- Joseph "Jovan" Galvan

HATE N' GRUDGES

Recently I have been witnessing a lot of anger and negativity around me… I think these people that are harnessing these negative feelings and seemingly worthless anger really need to step back and realize that their anger is an emotion that can provide them with a good indicator that they should either change the circumstances that exist within their life… or remove themselves from the situation. Emotions can be “used” and “misused”. The thing is…it seems that the majority of people lack the anger management skills that are necessary to keep them feeling happy in their lives without making them feel like a victim…. Always the victim.

I even recently asked someone I saw doing this “…why are you choosing this negative path?...how is it you can nurse a grudge against someone who gave you a dirty look for years… while at the same time When someone you love screams at you, you forgive them in a few days.” They responded by saying “basically people hold grudges because they believe that by simply removing the offender from their life that it will make their own life better…it feels like winning.”

I fear this only does more harm than help

One reason that holding grudges is a bad idea is that cutting off all communication with an individual causes them to be unable to seek forgiveness from you… There is no chance that the conflict that you are having with the individual will be resolved when you do your best to avoid them. Oftentimes, misunderstandings of a lack of foresight are the reasons that people get into arguments, and by cutting off communication with the other person, you may very well be making the problem worse…Another problem with holding a grudge is that when you hold a grudge against someone, you cast all the blame for your anger on that individual and are often too proud to admit that you may be at fault in one way or another yourself. You won’t be able to grow or correct similar problems in the future if you simply cut yourself off from the person.

 Life is too short to be hung up on hate and grudges, and being unforgiving may make you feel invulnerable, but it will most definitely cost you happiness in the long run.