DIRTY LAUNDRY

I'm an open book. This just makes my life easier... Being forthcoming with my successes and failures makes me feel like I don't have to pretend. I get to just be honest and open and The truth will set you free....right? In my weakness he is strong… so should I post Personal Problems and unwarranted Drama on social media? The thing about airing out your “Dirty Laundry” is that it potentially makes you the offender.   

I myself have seen people put stuff on face book and have thought to myself… “Facebook is not the place for that!” or “why would you tell the whole world your very private business?… I would never….”

We read it and make our own little judgments… we shake our heads, we scroll by and sometimes some individuals even feel compelled to inform the poster that they should delete the Post due to it being “too Personal” and they are perceiving it as “Dirty Laundry”. Sometimes even more insensitive individuals will just post a dismissive comment such as below:

When I see people post their "dirty laundry" on face book these days... I no longer shake my head. I don’t judge them or the situation being posted….I just see it for what it is in most cases... A cry for help. Posting “Drama” in any social media public forum for the most part is never a good idea because it is your online personal voice.  It is your online image and a reflection of the real you.  

If you’re trying to humiliate someone or instigate a fight with a friend, ex friend or family member, leaving distasteful remarks on yours or the wall of others and are clearly being destructive, how do you think others see you? 

It is not rocket science, it is common sense. However I’m not saying that it should never be done. There is a time and place for everything. I believe that sometimes posting certain situations and “Drama” can be done and done in a way that it’s so much more than hurt pride. Look beyond the words and see the actual cry for help. Not validation… but rather a cry for vindication. Next time try and keep in mind that in most cases, The “private situations” most People post about are commonly rooted out of Hurt. So next time rather than judging the individual for posting their drama or telling them they shouldn’t of…just tell them you hear them and that you’re there for them. It doesn’t mean you agree with them. It doesn’t mean you are picking sides… you’re just being kind. You’re being loving. I myself have posted “Dirty Laundry”… I didn’t know it was a cry for help at the time I was posting it… but only later when I received love and encouragement from Strangers and family alike… I realized what I was really needing was Help. For some... IT’S SO HARD TO ASK FOR HELP. So next time your reading some ones dirty laundry… ask yourself, is it hate and anger? Or is it hurt and pain? I’m sure we can all relate - feeling a little more bold, open, or witty when we interact over the internet…this may be the closes thing some people will come to asking for help without actually asking. Next time someone post dirty laundry…. Help them wash it. What if just a few words of encouragement was the very thing they needed?